Wow!!! It's been a while!!!

Well I haven't been here in what seems like forever and a day. So much has happened and I don't think I can fit it all in here tonight. My health is good, my boys and my grandson are good, and most of my family good.

Today was a very sad day, my Aunt Shirley, my mom's oldest and only remaining sister passed away last Saturday and today was the day we said goodbye. She has been ill for a very long time and while I'm so glad she is no longer in pain I am going to miss her so very much. She was such a huge part of my life and to say she influenced me a lot would be an understatement.

She gave me my name (Mary Yvonne, Shirley Yvonne) and a sense of what it is to be a strong, independant, woman. We had an issue a couple of years ago but I know she loved me and I loved her.

I spent my summers at her house as a child with my cousins, who are more like siblings to me, and it breaks my heart to see their pain, a pain that comes with losing someone who meant the world to you.

My mom is being strong but I know she is dying inside, they were very close and my mom helped take care of her and did everything she could for her. She was there when she took her very last breath and I think in a way it comforts her to know she saw all that pain just disappear.

It's amazing how we can sometimes take the people in our lives for granted and how we can hurt each other over little non important things. While I don't plan on being perfect in life, lol who is, I am learning that you can't change people and you certainly can't make them be what you feel or think they should be. All you can do is take care of you and be yourself. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind DON'T matter. Very cliche but so very true.

So after a long draining day I'm signing off and trying to get some sleep. God Bless, and take care.

OMG I'm back...

Yes, I'm back. We didn't have internet for a loooooooong time for one reason or another. I was finally able to get my old provider back, but it took so long I had to change my e-mail address. Grrrr... I loved my old one. Only thing different is in the middle instead of an underscore, I have a hyphen. Otherwise it's all the same.

Oh my goodness so many things have happened in the long time I've been gone. I don't have the time now to update but I will soon. For now I'm just checking in. I'm good, family is good, health is good...

It's good to be back because even if no one reads this it's very cathardic for me to be able to vent or just get things out.

Been a while...

It's been a bit since I've been here so I'm here to give a briefe update on the health front and other stuff.


Healthywise I'm doing great. Still on my meds and visiting my doctor once every three months like a good little (or not so little) girl. Yay me!!!


We just finished Jordan's second year of high school baseball, they did ok, could have done better but hey, they are learning a lot which is what JV is for. Come Varsity time they are going to rock!!! As long as they get a coach who is worth a crap, hopefully they don't bring back the varsity coach they had this year.



Here's a few pictures of the season...

2009 Franklin JV Baseball Team

Jordan pitching his last game of the season at Lincoln...

Jordan after the game (they lost)...

Sherry, Renee, and Me! The moms who were always there.






Look at that intense concentration!

Brotherly Love

I have 3 sons of my own, but my kids also have another brother. He lives in Texas and came to visit last week. The visit was too short but it was good. It amazes me how close they are even though the live so far away from each other.

You have Jordan on the rear left, Joey on the rear right and Scottie in the front (wearing Bubba's Franklin basketball shirt)...

I love the picture.

God's delay is not a denial...

I have to keep telling myself that. A lot. Over and over and over again. I work. I work a lot. I work all the time. But for what? I pay rent, utilities, my car, insurance, food, a little bit of entertainment, and all the extras for the boys. Jordan's sports, Joey's school (not an extra a neccesity)...



There's one thing I want but can't have, it seems no matter how hard I work. That is my own home. Don't get me wrong, I love my neighborhood and if I could buy my own house and plop it right on this lot I would be in hog heaven. But I can't do that. I can't even buy a house. Even with prices like they are I couldn't afford the payment on my own.



There's a perfect one out there for me right now. It's right next door to my mom's house, it's a nice house for a nice price, but not something I can do.



So I pray, every day, that some way, some how I can someday own my very own home. I'm almost 40 years old so I need it to come soon or what's the point? So every day after I pray, I tell myself, God's delay is not a denial.



I have to believe that, I just do.

Oncologist Visit #2

I have 2 oncologists, one from my radiation place and the other at Kaiser. I saw the Kaiser one today. He did his exam and of course asked me about my weight, I lost 5 lbs since I saw him last so I didn't get the "weight in relation to cancer" lecture that usually goes on for 30 minutes. Don't get me wrong, I like him, but I can only hear what I already know so many times. LOL

He said everything seems ok, but he ordered a mammogram for a couple of days from now. I shouldn't go until May but he wants me to go early. He noted that he felt something so they would rush it.

I'm scared to death to go. What if they find something, what if it's back, what if I have new lumps/cancer? And too much pressure hurts my right breast (the cancerous one) so I'm afraid I won't be able to handle the pain.

We'll see what happens. Until then, I'm healthy and good to go.

Oncology visit...

I went to see my radiation oncologist Dr. V on Thursday. He checked my skin and said it's healing and looking really good. He atributed it to the cream he prescribed me and told me to keep using it. Dunny thing is I haven't used it since the 2nd week in November. LOL But he said he hopes to never have to see me again (me too) and to stop by any time just to say hello. He also said to make sure to get my mammogram on time and let them know about my lumpectomies when I do.

I go for my 6 month check up with Dr. Shum of Kaiser, my other oncologist on the 17th of February (Christopher's 23rd birthday by the way) and I dread going to him. Only because I haven't lost one pound and he is the one who harps on me about my weight (like I don't know I'm fat?) and tells me I need to really lose some weight. I know this to be true, but that doesn't make it easy. I keep saying I'm going to and I keep doing what I've been doing and of course we see where that got me. I say I'm going to go to the gym, I actually like to go, but really where am I supposed to find the time?

I work Monday - Friday 7:30-4:30, then I work Monday, Tuesday, & Thursday at Penney's from 5:30-9:30. Wednesdays and Fridays are Jordan's basketball games from 5:30 until about 7 and then I have to get home and cook dinner. I work a few hours usually on Saturdays and some Sundays, but when I don't I have to do housework. You would think with all that I would lose something but NO! I don't know, I'm just frustrated more lately because of that and other stresses. I hope eventually it will all work out. **shrugs**